19 Mistakes that Stay-at-home Moms make that make them unproductive
For the last five years, I’ve been a full-time Stay-at-Home Mom and work at home Mom. Visit some of the jobs I’ve been doing at home. I’ve been happy having time to stay with my children, being my boss and control of my day. However, it has been the most challenging job, full of uncertainty and trial. But like you, all know there is no training manual and instruction when it comes to parenting thing. I will admit that am not a perfect mom; I’ve made mistakes like any other mom out there. Although some have done me unproductive in work at home writer, they have been a lesson. Here are some of the mistakes that I’ve made and other Stay-at-Home out there make.
- Being the whole in your pajamas and nightdress
It’s good before you start working you create time to shower, brush your teeth, keep your hair neat, apply make-up, and dress in working clothes. It makes your mind prepared, and your children see that it’s time for mom to work they disrupt you.
- Not taking your job serious
Most moms think that the only job that Stay-at-Home Moms qualify is cooking, looking after your children, doing laundry, and cleaning house. If Moms learn any job they can do at home to earn money they see it as by the way, they don’t do it seriously, and it fails.
- Not creating an office space
Set a dedicated office for your work even if it’s a small space at the corner of your bedroom or dining table. You can create a small space that has a chair and a small table which is yours; it helps because it gives you a visual reminder to you and your kids it’s time for mommy to work.
Also, when you sit down on the sofa with your laptop, you’ll have your child playing all over you makes you unproductive.
- You don’t get enough rest
You know being at home, it means multitasking washing clothes, cleaning dishes, cooking, cleaning house and looking after your children so to get time to rest sometimes becomes hard.
You are forced to work the whole day and wee hours at night when everyone asleep to beat deadlines.
Don’t rob yourself time to sleep or rest in the name of the deadline.
Also, rest is good for your health, and it makes one efficient.
- Don’t stick to your schedule
Sometimes it becomes harder to stick to your plan if you have a kid who is two years and below. Don’t make it a reason for not having a daily schedule the best thing with the kid they stick to what they are used to. If they see you working at home, they accept and becomes part of their routine.
Schedule help achieves your daily goals.
- Not hiring house help
I understand the main aim for Stay-at-Home Mom to work at home is to spend most of their time with their children. In fact, you can’t successfully grow your career or achieve your daily goals and the same time you are looking after your kid and attending to house chores.
You need to hire house help who will assist to get work done.
- Not delegating duties
If you kids who are old enough to support you on some of the tasks at home. Delegate some of them. If they are small when your husband come back home from the job, request him to assist in some work like looking after the children as you cook or do something you love.
- Not involving kids to exciting activities
When children break the school for the holiday, we take a break to work too since you can’t look after them and work.
If you have kids above five years, you have no reason not to work. At this age children are enough to play on their own, read a book, watch a movie for one or two hours, and you stay in your office focused those two hours, and you will have good results.
- Not giving some of your time to nurture your marriage
The life of Stay-at-home Moms revolves around looking after children and attending to house chores leaving you physically, mentally and emotionally worn out to put enough time into your marriage.
We forget marriage what makes all those things happen.
Create time to connect with your partner and not work all the day.
- Work at night when your kids are asleep
We encourage moms to work when children are asleep, but not at night. You need this evening to connect to your partner, meditate, read a book, and watch a movie.
Second, you have worked the whole day and you are exhausted, so you are no longer productive. You need time to relax, and this is the time.
Also according to research most productive time is early in the morning and early afternoons.
- Not taking care of yourself
Who said that if you are Stay-at-Home Mom you are not supposed to be fashionable, neat and exercise to have that figure, you know? Sometimes we even have a mentality that we are staying in the house all day you are not supposed to be smart get the hell out of that. Find someone to leave your children with for two or three hours schedule time to have lunch or coffee with friends, visit a salon, visit the gym for exercise or go for an outing, and have a night out with your partner.
- Waste too much time on social media
This one thing that is killing everyone time spending too much of our time posting gossips on social media like FaceBook, Twitter, and others.
- Compare your life and those of working Moms
Society has not taken the job of Stay-at-Home Moms is real even as Stay-at-home Moms we don’t value what we do. We appreciate moms who go to office daily, so we weigh our lives with those of working moms. When it comes to weighing the life, it doesn’t matter whether you are working mom or Stay-at-Home Mom.
What matters is how you are taking care of your family and your life.
- Accepting too many favors with friends/ neighbors with office job
Just because you are Stay-at-Home Mom doesn’t mean that you are free to agree to all requests that come from your neighbor and friends.
Many friends and neighbors around don’t understand work at home, or Stay-at-Home job is a real job, they don’t value your time as theirs.
Even though you want to maintain a good relationship with your neighbors and friends, sometimes it’s good to say no to those many favors like looking after their children, going shopping for them and many others.
- Not having a plan
When you have decided to work at home, it’s good to have a real structure of the day. When it comes to family meals, you can even plan it weekly.
Plan time to do laundry, watch television, wash dishes, go for a walk, and time for lunch or supper.
When you plan your day earlier, it makes routine in your house run smoothly.
- Forcing you to be perfect
Just because you are not providing financially to you family doesn’t mean you are supposed to be perfect on all house chores. If you have a small kid, sometimes it’s not easy to maintain a clean house or stick to your schedule.
- Being ashamed to say you are Stay-at-Home Mom
How many times that people ask you what you do for a living and answer them you are a Stay-at-Home Mom. Who said working Moms are better than Stay-at-Home Moms, it’s just a mentality that we have you might be happier than some of the working moms. It’s high time you start becoming happier Stay-at-Home Moms and appreciate the title.
- Feeling guilty you are not providing financially to your family
Nowadays money has become a value to our lives. We monetize everything even relationship; partners are no longer appreciating their partner with the services they provide to the family but with how financially they are supporting each other. That why Stay at home Moms feel guilty that are not contributing financially.
Find another thing that you are doing to your family may it be homeschooling, you are sometimes a doctor to your children, housekeeper and much more. Appreciate yourself for what you are providing you can’t be 100% in everything.
- Not creating friendship with other Stay-at-Home Moms
It’s good to build a relationship with one or two Stay-at-Home Mom around your area. There a lot that you can share because you are almost experiencing the same life experiences.
Nowadays you can use social media to connect with other moms all over the world. Just make sure you have a connection with one group that you can share ideas and experiences.
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