Challenges for stay at home moms in Kenya
Researches, study, and poll outside Kenya have found that Stay-at-Home Mom struggle and are more depressed than working Moms. I’m a Stay-at-Home Mom in Kenya, and I would support the findings. Although society takes as one of the simplest jobs, the fact is being a stay at home mom in Kenya is one of the tough jobs. Many challenges come along being Stay-at-Home Moms.
Without wasting more time let me share challenges that Kenyan Stay-at-Home Moms face
- Lack of appreciation
Mom work the whole day attending the house chores – washing clothes, cleaning dishes, cooking, looking for children and much more. In Kenya, house chores jobs are taken as one of the micro jobs. For example, in rural areas, you will find that the same woman who is doing such “small job” as the society perceive it is the same person who will go look after the farm and cattle, which is the job that men in rural areas do the whole day.
The funniest thing you will find that when your partner come back home after job and finds the house is in a mess the only question they will ask what were you doing the whole day.
After Stay-at-Home Moms do that entire job, you will find it becomes hard for society to pinpoint what she did the whole day.
- Inadequate finance
Most of the Stay-at-Home Moms jobs don’t come with the paycheck, or you find that the pay is little. Also, most of the Husband when making family budget moms are not considered anywhere not even a coin to buy personal items.
- Lack of employment
In Kenya, no job is set aside to be done by Stay-at-Home Moms. Most of the developed countries have set aside jobs such as survey and mystery shopping to be done by Stay-at- Home Moms. Although we can thank technology that they are jobs that Stay-at- Home Mom can do online while looking after the children, those jobs don’t favor rural moms. Most Stay-at-Home Moms at the countryside doesn’t have access to internet and others don’t have knowledge that those jobs exist.
- Lack of acknowledgment of Stay-at-Home Moms Job title
In Kenya, Stay-at-Home Moms title is not recognized anywhere. If you want to go back into the working world, all those years you have been Stay-at-Home Moms are counted as unemployed rather than acknowledge the efforts and commitments it takes to be a Stay-at-Home Moms.
Mostly when you have a newborn, the work of Stay-at-Home Moms is to stay at home the whole day. Some days you may not interact with an adult at all and sometimes interacting with the kids the whole can be isolating
Most Moms in Kenya will not agree with this because they find the job of Stay-at-Home Moms is repeating the same thing waking up, washing clothes, cleaning house and dishes, look after your baby, feed the baby, put the baby to sleep, and looking after the farm if you are in rural areas. Sometimes it becomes a struggle to balance all those tasks, and they end up leaving you exhausted.
- Being taken advantage
Sometimes you will find the church; school; family members or society can organize and delegate a duty for you without informing you in advance all because you are not working. When you tell them you are busy, or they pay for the service rendered, they say you could be at home doing nothing it’s a chance you have got to keep you busy.
- Loss of identity
In today’s world, everyone is evaluated with the formal job title, how much you earn and how much you bring to the table and this also applies here in Kenya. Stay-at-Home Moms job is not appreciated, you don’t have any job title or earn money you lose identity to the society.
Even the children and husband don’t take you seriously.
- Remain stagnant
Being Stay-at-Home Moms means every day you repeat the same job looking after your house and children, you remain imprisoned at home, so you remain stagnant since you are not learning new things. You remain stagnant in your life knowing only specific things.
After all, it doesn’t mean since you are Stay-at-home Moms all these challenges can make your life not grow or make you not happy? All these challenges have the solution. Let looks to some of the solutions.
You can take a course or learn a hobby so that you won’t remain stagnant not only will help stay alerted but it’s a good way to prepare to return to work if you wish later.
Even though most Stay-at-Home Moms in Kenya who live in rural areas don’t access the internet there are other ways they can earn money like starting a business while at home looking after children?
You can find other Stay-at-Home Moms at your area and form a group to be sharing ideas so as to beat boredom
I know I’ve not exhausted the list of both challenges and solution if you are Stay-at-Home Mom in Kenya feel free to share the challenges that you face in the comment section below and you can share my list too on social media.